The Neurodivergent Gentle Parenting Toolkit

For parents of children aged 4–12 with ADHD, autism, or both. No diagnosis needed.

Most gentle parenting advice quietly assumes a neurotypical brain. If you're raising a child with ADHD, autism, or both, you already know the gap: techniques that should work, and don't.

This toolkit is the plan for you, the parent: your own calm, the tools that work, the words for family and school, and worksheets that turn it all into a plan for your child. Every section explains first, in plain words, then gives you "Your turn" pages: quizzes, checklists and fill-in pages.

What's inside

• The brain behind the behaviour, in short: ADHD and autism in plain words, and the four things behind most hard moments.
• The 5 pillars: the mindset shifts that make every other technique land, with a self-check.
• Your own regulation: your warning signs, ten-second resets, how to refill, and a hard-day plan for the evenings when you have nothing left.
• Meltdown or tantrum: how to tell them apart, and what helps before, during and after.
• Words for the hard moments: short phrases for the meltdown cycle, how to repair when you got it wrong, and what to say to your partner, grandparents and school.
• Sensory and regulation tools: six go-to tools, plus sound, touch and movement.
• Six worksheets: sensory profile, early warning signals, a family meltdown plan, a regulation menu to make with your child, a plan for one hard moment, and a seven-day tracker.

Plus a one-page cheat sheet for the fridge.

Format: 54-page PDF in two editions, A4 (UK) and US Letter. Instant download. Works on phone, tablet and computer, and prints at home.

This guide offers practical strategies. It is not medical, psychological or diagnostic advice.

Get all three for £19.49 instead of £30.97. The Complete Bundle has this toolkit, The Hard Moments Workbook and the book What My Mind Wants You to Know.